EAT DESSERT FIRST

 

Saturday, February 6, 2021

NATIONAL EAT ICE CREAM FOR BREAKFAST DAY

Eat Dessert FIRST is pretty much a motto I have lived by since forever.  

Even, JUST EAT DESSERT works for me.

I could live a lifetime without meat. Okay, except for the Jersey Mikes Philly Cheese Steak Sandwich, that I drive 45 minutes there and back for.  There is not one in my city, so I must journey for it.  Side note of a story, about 5 years ago we were on vacation and had the option to eat Jersey Mikes...you know vacation food that you can’t get at home.  And we walked in and I didn’t like the way it smelled, I think I don’t like the aroma of deli meats in large quantities.  And then, 2 years ago were on vacation and I was starving and the closet thing was Jersey Mikes and I was...okay what ever I will stay in the car and get me the Philly Cheese Steak Sandwich. OMG, it changed my life, it was so delicious. Okay, it didn’t change my life, I was very impressed and felt the need to eat each bite in awe and stare at my sandwich from all angles in disbelief of how tasty.  Of course, I was starving, but I got one the next day too, it has yet to disappoint.   The years I wasted by not eating it!  Every time we go to Los Angeles, we stop in Santa Clarita to get one.  We used to just stop at the grapevine and drive through to Los Angeles, now it’s the grapevine and Santa Clarita, proceed to destination.💖

I do enjoy fruits and veggies.  Cheese and desserts are staples in my life.  I will say, they are not that friendly to me however.  My body doesn’t take to most desserts anymore and even cheese has begun complications in my system.

The mind does boggle with all the different ways you can combine sugar, cinnamon and flour!  Do you not understand all the things those 3 simple ingredients can do, have you not wondered about this as much as me?  Here is a little secret, for about 7 years I was working on my recipe to join the Pillsbury Cook Off.  I was serious, it was happening… and then I started becoming more health conscious and changed my mind.  It was obviously going to contain sugar, cinnamon and flour, perhaps that is why I’ve spent quite a large amount of time in wonderment over those 3 magical ingredients and their synergy.🌟

But let’s skip ahead to the party!  

Speaking of parties, for my 40th birthday my theme was EAT DESSERT FIRST.😍 We traveled 350 miles to Mission Viejo California because they had my childhood ice cream birthday spot there.  Farrell’s  Ice Cream Parlor.  I was so excited!  I had the employees sing the birthday song, I wore the birthday hat and all.  A hot fudge Sundae was first and then a Cobb Salad. I love a Cobb Salad💖   I didn’t eat it all because that’s an odd mixture.  It was all yumm though.  I can’t even tell you what my kids ordered, because I was so wrapped up in my own happiness.  Which is honestly refreshing, because it is ALWAYS about them.

We did other things for my 40th birthday that we will discuss in another post.  Didn’t want you thinking, I drove 350 miles just for ice cream.  I did however once drive 205 miles extra which is about 4 hours from Pismo Beach California to La Habra California… since I was “so close” to go to Krispy Kreme donuts in 2000.  It was a whole phenomenon back in 2000 about Krispy Kreme and I lived in San Jose at the time, there were no Krispy Kreme’s anywhere and La Habra had one, and we were going to Pismo… so might as well drive past Pismo and go to Labra and then go back...right!  Makes sense to me. It was worth it and I would do it again🌟  sometime you have to simply do what makes you happy😍

I really feel one should responsibly do what makes you happy as often as you can.  I have lived my life like this and have tried to express to my children the importance of this theory.  It is a delicate balance, perhaps another way to say it is 

Work Hard, Play Harder✨💖✨

Saturday, February 6, 2021 is National EAT ICE CREAM FOR BREAKFAST DAY!  I am all over it, is happening in my household.  If ice cream isn’t your thing, I advise you to substitute it for something else that makes you happy.  LIVE IT UP!🎉

If dessert is not for you and you really enjoy dinner, a nice bloody Prime Rib or what have you.  DO IT🌟 DINNER FOR BREAKFAST IT IS!  While that sounds not appetizing to me...it’s not about me, IT IS ABOUT YOU!  

💖✨YOU CREATE WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY✨💖

Who cares about what people think!

You live your life✨💖😘

Do not wait until next year to have ice cream for breakfast or your favorite dessert for breakfast.  Do it once a month, once every 3 or 4 months.

DO IT!

🌟YOUR ACTIVITY🌟

Should you choose to partake 

Is to EAT DESSERT FIRST💖

Comment on Facebook or Instagram with what you did to CELEBRATE National Eat Ice Cream for Breakfast Day!

Luminous Light & Love,

Monique 💖

Luminosity Living LLC

LuminosityLiving.me

Meet me Monique & Felix💖 well, meet Felix mostly✨

 

🌟Do not let looks deceive you💖

✨This is Felix✨

Middle name: it is French, starts with a C... we don’t remember it...we believe Felix has erased all our memory of it (We can look at his kitty records..we just haven’t)

Astrology sign: Taurus, Pisces or Gemini

Enjoys: late night early morning tap dancing on the kitchen counter & sneaking to eat gourmet dog food.  El Pollo Loco, He is crazy for the chicken and will jump on the counter with us in the room (Where he is not allowed) because he cannot even control himself.  LOVES Bird watching out the window.

Best friend: Ceder the middle son

Felix appears to look like a cat, however he is actually not.  We have another cat, Stella Luna...she is a cat.  Felix is NOT a cat.

We believe he has actually been knighted, so it is Sir Felix to you.

He has a French, yet very distinctive Spanish accent.  Yes, you read that correctly.

He thinks catnip is dumb and does not understand why the actual cat Stella loves it so much.  The look of disgust he gives her as she rolls about in it, is fun to watch.

We believe he is in some sort of secret service/ ninja type deal.  his services takes place when he goes missing in the house.  Felix is an indoor “Cat”. Could be time travel, other dimension...we do-not really know.  Clearly he is very good at his job🌟 a simply jingle of the cat treat bag can magically make him return from whatever dimension/time travel location ninja job.

Felix came to us by pure magic and positive thinking.  

See, the middle son and I are deathly allergic to cats. DEATHLY.  Even so,  in 2013 the thought occurred to me that I wanted a grey kitty, like the one I used to play with at my moms friends house every weekend, when we first learned I was DEATHLY allergic to cats.  

I had the thought, cleared it with the kids.  So the positive intention thoughts were placed.

3 weeks later I saw a free box of kittens on Facebook garage sale.  It was a grey kitty and some siblings. I really wanted it...but I wasn’t sure...you know me and the son And our allergies.

A few days later it was only a black one left.  I was so close to replying, but didn’t reply fast enough as that kitten too was taken.  I was bummed. Had regrets. I think I already loved him by the photo.  And then magically the black kitten was returned!  I replied and he was ours. Yes, we got a free returned kitty from Facebook garage sales.💖

He quickly became the loves of our lives, except for the Chihuahua Bella.  She was not impressed, and still is not to this day.  Felix has the utmost respect for her, as any distinguished gentleman would, and stays out of her way.  Excepts meets up with her at the door when she is barking, Felix is there to stand guard and to protect.  Bella the dog and Felix the (human, dog “Cat”) go towards the doorbell and Stella the cat goes into hiding.  Oh by the by...we have had ZERO ALLERGIC REACTIONS.

💖The situation is:

I believe Felix has me in training program against my will.  I feel as though, his experiment is not going well and I am slow learner...in his opinion.   I am most certain his Captains Journal has the most derogatory comments to say about my performance.

For the last 6 months, whenever I get water out of the fridge water dispenser...Felix comes around the corner from whatever time dimension he has been in and sits and looks at me, making sure to engage in eye contact.  He then looks at the top of the fridge at his bag of treats and then back to me...starting at me deeply.  It was confusing at first because I do not know how this began.  60% of the time, I grab the treats and let it rain treats on the floor.  Other times, I’m like no...WTF.  I think this is what happens in the mind of actual animals when they are being trained for things.  

Maybe mindlessly one day I grabbed the treats while getting water and in his head it became and official thing.  

He only does this when I get water...no one else in the household.  Why am I the subject for this testing?

Sometimes I give him the treats, other times I do not.  I want to be consistent, but I just can’t....because it’s annoying, and he doesn’t own me...perhaps I don’t own him either.  He has even started to come running when I turn on the kitchen faucet...that is a HARD NO.  

Why is my cat trying to train me?

Why can not I not be consistent for him?

Why do I randomly find him sitting starting at the top of the fridge?  In my head I imagine he has vision like mission impossible google glasses with stats and degrees on how to do back flips to climb up and get his own treats.

Of course I do have an over active imagination...

or do I?

✨🌟💖🌟✨

If you were wondering

Bella Roxy the chihuahua has a British accent, and is rather proper.

Stella Luna is a California Valley Girl, who may or may not say “like” mid sentence for no apparent reason more than me.

  She had a twin brother Brodie, who was a bit of a juvenile delinquent & lovable California surfer dude. Brodie crossed the rainbow bridge due to his love of eating all things rubber on our shoes and gym equipment.  We have fond memories when we look down at some of our Ugg’s and thongs  and see little tiny bite marks.🌈😇

🌟Luminous Light & Love,  Monique💖

Luminosity Living LLC

@LuminosityLiving across social media🌟

iConfess I’m addicted to coffee

 Introducing 🌟SEGMENTS🌟

Thus far there are about 8 or so different segments.  Today I introduce you to iConfess.  Because I am so honest, the truth teller that I am, it only seems natural to me to have a segment called iConfess.

Today, I am confessing my love of coffee. I used to make it for the family starting at the age 8 on weekends.  I also started drinking it at that age. I started with sugar and cream and then one day decided that I didn’t like the cream color and started drinking it black and finally withdrew the sugar.  The only time I did not particularly care to be around coffee was when I was pregnant with my first child, he did not like coffee or a few of the musical artist I listened to.

I do try to stop drinking coffee by 2pm because if I don’t there is a 50/50 chance I will be up all night or I will pass out on regular schedule.  I am thoughtfully conscious of the fact that I would like to drink less, as apparently it dehydrates you.  I hope you enjoyed that carefully crafted last sentence, because it is basically saying, I am aware and pretty much doing nothing about it💕 this is also example of what we do here at Luminosity Living, we are honest with ourselves and the choices we make. So I have the awareness of what coffee does, I need to increase my water intake, and I need to drink less per week, however it will not be in the coming weeks as I have other things I need to put my...I guess mental strength towards.  For me I do not feel coffee wakes me up or gives me energy, I like the smell, the taste, and the warm mug...it’s a whole “feeling” a mini event. It is comforting to me.

Share below what do you have an awareness of that may be an addiction, an absolute love of...that may be beyond normal.

And...does anyone else have the same love for coffee that I have❤️

🌟Luminous Light & Love,  Monique💖

#LuminosityLiving  #IAMLUMINOUS #ilovecoffee #LLSEGMENTS #iConfess

Give Compliments Every Day

 

January 24th, 2021

National Compliment Day

Be Generous

Be Authentic

Let it come from your heart to theirs💕

Today, I share what a random compliment from a complete stranger did for me in 2019.

The day started out with me knowing that I had places I needed to go, and really I wanted to go.  However, this day took place at a time when I was burned out from too many responsibilities, too many online classes I was trying to take, raising 3 teenagers (not my favorite parenting phase) and just complete difficulties from the previous 4-6 years...or maybe even more, it just had all caught up to me.  I would like to point out here, that being burned out for me was a different feeling than depression and a mental breakdown, I have experienced both of those and this phase of life was neither.  My selfcare had gone non existent, I had gained a bunch of weight.  I call this weight, trauma weight that I gained in 2017 on top of the weight I was already trying to lose from the birth of my children back in 1997 and the additional pounds gained on top of that from the shock of being married to a cheating narcissist and raising kids alone within a marriage.  We will talk all about that later in future conversations.  I was taking a plethora of online classes for continued education, I was solely responsible for every single thing and person in my household.  As perhaps many stay at home moms and dads, I was getting no acknowledgement, taken completely for granted, it was not good.  I didn’t want to see anyone and I didn’t want anyone to see me.  Even though I was in this place in my life, I was actively doing the work on myself and healing from all the things in my life and mastering unconditional love and forgiveness for all the people that hurt me, and really learning what unconditional love is and what forgiveness means.  It was during the spring of 2019 and my daughter was turning 16, so too was planning a huge birthday trip,  a Sweet 16 Wanderlust Vacation to Los Angeles and surrounding cities, for this trip I had gone on a shopping spree to get clothes that fit this temporary size me.  Because when you look good you feel good, or at least you feel better.  Seriously, my mantra was “at least I look cute”.  We will go deeper into this “phase of my life” in another post.  But for now, you can see I was not at my happiest point with myself.  

It was a nice sunny day, and ya know I LOVE THE SUN.  Instead of my usual black, cream, white or neutral shades, I put on this bright off the shoulder floral blouse and did my makeup in pinkish shades to match the pink hair I had been sporting. The pink hair was me embracing my word for the year Love, unconditional love and forgiveness to be exact.  My affirmation was I AM LOVE that year and the previous.  I like to be a little extra, fun colored trendy hair was in and so pink fun hair for me it was.  I still felt fat, I looked fat, but my hair, my makeup and my outfit was cute.  

Done deal, let’s go shopping.  I had to go to the grocery store, but mostly I was excited to go to my local TJ Max afterwards, to the mini HomeGoods section...pretty much that was what I couldn’t wait to get to.  I still did not want to be seen and I did not want to see anyone.  By looking at me you wouldn’t know that, because my default state is happy.  I attribute it to perhaps because I’m a Gemini, and I have a million and five thoughts going through my head at any given time, and I pretty much amuse myself. Perhaps it is just my chemical makeup, but I seriously can be alone and laugh out loud, because I think I’m funny.  My parenting style is usually humor first with my kids.  I inserted this last portion to say that no matter what drama or trauma you are going through, you can still be authentically happy when your mind is not on your troubles.  Because fake and phoney, I am not. Okay, I do like to always put the legal disclaimer, yeah, I buy my hair and if I could put on fake eyelashes without glue everywhere, I would rock those too...I am not personality wise fake, just my hair, and one day I’m going to figure out the eyelashes.  I will have my 17 year old daughter teach me, so annoying, she has long thick beautiful lashes PLUS can install fake eyelashes...the annoyance of it all.  Okay back to the story.

The grocery store is my nemesis.  My mantra is keep to the outskirts, no flour or sugar.  My affirmation is FOOD IS FUEL.  I generally start off in the produce, organic and non GMO only.  I get all the things the kids have added to the list, I’m all good, the basket is decent healthy and I get to the end of the store and I lose my shit and and all the sensibility in the bakery.  My affirmation is now, just this last time.  This is me at the grocery store, every single time.  I will say I am much better now I will say at the uploading of this post.

I get to the check out, and while it’s our turn to pay, a lady that works there walks up to me.  I’ve never seen her before, I guess she works in the back or something.  She says I can’t believe I’m doing this but I have to say looking at you and your pink hair and your makeup and your beautiful bright shirt made me so happy, you are so beautiful.  I saw you walk in and I kept seeing you, you are lovely.  WHAT!  STOP!  OMG! GET OUT!    You should know that I am used to people coming up to me, people telling me things, I guess I am approachable and I am used to a random Monique mini coaching session wherever I am, my kids are used to it.   So, as I said earlier, I can be a little extra, and I do not have a problem telling people how I feel about them.  My reply was direct to her eyes, I LOVE YOU! It was important that she looked me direct in my eyes and KNEW, this moment was significant to me.  It’s is not new to me being told I am pretty, but this was different, this was authentic from her heart and she felt a REAL need to tell me, even though she was quite shy and not her normal style of doing things.  Tears immediately begin to surface...although I didn’t let them fall (the makeup, ya know).  You should also know, during this phase in my life I would wear sweats, go 24-48 without washing my face, I sometimes thought I was forgetting how to apply makeup.  So on this day, I was basically getting ready for a grand ball, and when I stepped out of my room ready for the grocery store big event feeling all pretty, the spouse looked at me and said cool let’s go. There you go, the spouse neglected me and I had started to neglect me.  It did not dampen my mood, because I was used to it. However I took mental note, and should a person really be used to being neglected?  It had been over 25 years of this behavior from him.  I let the spouse finish up our transaction, me and my new best friend stepped out of the line and I began to tell her how I felt that day, and that I made a huge point to get myself together so I could feel good and go out and about.  She then shared how she had basically the same story as me, feels overweight, buys everything for her daughter and not for her.... until she loses the weight.   I then went into Enchantment Life Coach Monique, we were both near tears.  15 minutes later I told her thank you, I needed this compliment today, she said she needed my portion of the conversation, we needed each other that day. I hugged her, didn’t get her name, never saw her again.  However, she made a tremendous impact on my life and in my healing journey that continued.  The universe sent us to each other at the perfect time.

Needless to say, I was EXTRA chipper when I got to the TJ Max Home Goods section and for the rest of the day, and probably into the next for a while.

That was a healing moment for us both.

Simply because she went out of her way to give a random stranger a compliment from her heart to mine.

Be Generous

Be Authentic

Let it come from your heart to theirs💕

IN REVIEW:

I am very happy she went out of her comfort zone to compliment me.  I believe the universe brought her to me that day to confirm that I was making the right choice to buy clothes that fit my temporary body size.  While the theory may be for some, to not buy clothes when you gain weight, so you can fit back into your old clothes, for me, that message was not true.  I think it is kind of like people that save their good China for special occasions only...I don’t have Fine China, and if I did I would use it all the time anyway.  Well, actually I do have a little Tea set and I use it all the time because it makes me happy.  I also feel that she needed to meet me so I can share my message with her as we were both in the same place in our life, except I was breaking a limited belief, she needed to hear this, and move forward in her life too.

It sounds shallow, when we look our best we feel the best.  However, for us we knew  that we are beautiful people on the inside, just our outsides were not matching our internal beauty. Simply put, in this story I broke a limiting belief, and I hope she did too. This was also a small and impactful step towards My Self Acceptance Journey..

I am most certain my story is not unique to only me.  This is why, when you authentically see something kind in someone...TELL THEM🌟💖🌟

🌟YOUR ACTIVITY:🌟

should you choose to accept

What limiting belief do you have about yourself in regards to beauty or your appearance?  If you look deep, is that belief actually true? If it is not, what can you do to dissolve that belief and replace it with a positive more product belief?  Share with me on Facebook,Instagram or Twitter under this meme.

⭐️POST BELOW, FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, OR TWITTER:⭐️

Share what a compliment has done for you or what your compliment has done for someone else.

I encourage you to make giving compliments part of your daily activities.

It is a MUST for me, it has been for the last 18 years or so.  I feel bad if I do not give a compliment when my heart desires that I do.

If you have read this far I thank you! XOXO put a butterfly 🦋 or yellow star ⭐️ in the comments or on Luminosity Living social media under this meme🦋⭐️

Luminous Light & Love,

Monique💖

Luminosity Living LLC

Thank you for supporting Luminosity Living!

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Thank you for supporting me in following my passion in sharing my wisdom & education to inspire and motivate others to create a life of joy. I can not even explain the immense joy I felt when I received my first subscriber and the first share of a meme I made!  Thank you, thank you, thank you!  Know that each one of your individual likes, comments, shares, emoji’s, just page engagement is EVERYTHING to me, and does not go unnoticed.  It is with so much love & gratitude that I send you for supporting me as I take many leaps of faith this year 💕

BREIF HISTORY ON LUMINOSITY LIVING LLC

Monique’s Luminosity & Adornments, my previous candle business I started in 2006 branched out to Luminosity Living in 2012.  2012 is when I first had the idea, 2013 I had the epiphany, 2014 is when I took my first class for Life Coaching, followed by a year of Holistic Health Practitioner, Usui Reiki, Crystal Reiki, Western & Eastern Therapeutic Massage, Acupressure, and Reflexology. I then continued on to Certified Crystal Healer, Certified Life Cycle Celebrant, Metaphysical Degree, studied essential oils and floral herbs, a Crystal Mystery School another type of Mystery School, Feng Shui and so much more. 2021 and still going with the classes.  Needless to say I am FULL OF INFORMATION ON HEALING HOLISTICALLY AND HAPPINESS!

2019 I became an LLC, 2020 I was set to open in August, I did, as I am goal oriented, but then put my Etsy Shop on vacation as I decided I needed more time for Self Care.  As soon as I made that difficult decision...you know changing my mind on my goal.  I felt soo much better. In January I was ready to open my doors again, and turns out my business is taking a turn and being more than I thought it was.  We will talk about this later this year, I followed my heart, listened to my intuition, even though “my mind” was like Monique you made a goal, complete it.  All my other parts of me were not feeling as though it was the time for me personally, even though I had everything in place to proceed.  I had no other reason other than my heart, my intuition, and a little nervous anxiety in my body was saying not now.  I listened to everything but my ego mind, and felt so much relief when I made my final decision. Here we are in January, and everything is flowing with ease. My creativity is top notch and thus far on the daily I’m leaving my comfort zone and feeling really great.

💖✨Follow your heart, listen to your intuition🌟💕

BRIEF HISTORY ON ME MONIQUE

At 16 I discovered the self help section at my local library. Zig Ziglar, Napeolean Hill, and Tony Robbins are all my BFFs in my head.  Everything I was reading made so much sense to me, it was like I was being reminded of what I already knew.  My mom had a hard time understanding my positivity, but Zig, Napeolean and Tony knew me!  I did have the pleasure of attending a Tony Robbins event and years later a Zig Zigular event.  The joy for me to be around highly energized happy people like me, was amazing.  The Tony Robbins event was in 2000 and I still feel like it was yesterday with his clapping and the music!  Oh , yeah I’m turning 49 this year! I am really excited to turn 50, I started my pre-party when I turned 48. I am still very young at heart.  8 years ago I was having a melt down about turning 40...it made no sense, I didn’t understand it, my question to everybody that would listen to me ramble was “what does it mean to turn 40?” We will talk about age as a number in May, my birthday month of course!💖

Unofficially, I’ve been Life Coaching since I was in elementary school. I am the person that random people end of telling me things in a store and then the next thing I am in a mini coaching session.  My kids are used to it and just wait it out. I would like to add  too, that I have 100% track record of match making couples, and them staying together over a year or more.  Of course my magical talent hasn’t been used since junior college...but I’m most certain “I still got it”.

I aspire to inspire, motivate, and help you think of things in a different way.  On our journey together, I will be sharing all the things I have overcome and healed in context of topics.  I know many things, but not all the things, what I do not know I am counting on you to share your knowledge on the things you know to fill in the gaps.  I am most certain I have much to learn from you as well.

I am currently in a major transition in life and later this year we will be going over that.

Luminosity Living is not only here to help inspire, motivate and co~create a life a joy, it is also a space to heal.  To authentically live a life a joy, you have to release the things that no longer serve you, limiting beliefs and such. You have to be willing to transform and you have to be willing to hold a high vibration with positive thoughts.  This is the basis of manifesting the life you want.

In the meantime, I’m Monique, owner of a Luminosty Living, I’m a forever Optimist, an empath, a problem solver, a truth seeker, I pretty much wake up chatty & happy in a high vibration state ( I had 3 teenagers at one time..it did dull my vibe at times, many times, but you just bounce back) I celebrate all things possible, and I am going to teach, inspire and motivate you to be your happiest too.  Know it is not for a lack of problems in my life, because I have had several and consistent problems, it’s the way I keep an optimistic look, and few years ago I really learned that when your world comes tumbling down, as mine has several times, it may be better to just let it, as it may be happening for you and not to you.

In Deep Gratitude & Love,

Monique 😘 xoxox

What is your Word for 2021?

What does having a word for the year mean?

Why should you have a word for the year?

The answer for both is quite simply, it will change your life drastically for the better when you embrace a word, practice being aware of your chosen word and live and or be the definition of the word. 

If you have not yet chosen a word or words for 2021, do not fret, it is never too late to start from where you are!

I have chosen a word for the year since 2018.  Since then I have discovered that it is better for me personally if I listen to the Universe and what word or words keep repeating themselves. Having a word for the year has led me to evolve quicker on my path of being the best version of me possible.  Because I let the Universe reveal the words to me, I was given what I needed and not what I wanted.  Which turns out is much  better.

In 2018 I choose Love and Forgiveness.  Yeah, I know it is common to have one word, however I am not common and let’s blame it on me being a Gemini.  I often choose 2 words.  Looking back,  I now know even then I did not choose those words.  A series of events lead up to me understanding unconditional love and forgiveness.  I spent the next year and a half really mastering both unconditional love for all and forgiveness.  I have without a doubt forgiven everyone that has ever hurt me and continues to hurt me. And I too have unconditional love for them, because as the saying goes the people that hurt people are really the most hurt people.  From 2017 to 2019 I dyed my hair pink on and off to help completely embrace my words.

In 2019 I chose Discipline and Self Mastery.  While I can honestly say I’ve been on this quest since I was 16 and felt determined this was the year since I was so awesome at mastering Love and Forgiveness.  I soon realized that the words that kept showing itself to me was Self Love and Self Forgiveness. Interesting!  Imagine that...Self Love and Self Forgiveness are a totally different species and subject matter than Unconditional Love and Forgiveness.  Quickly the words of the year for 2019 became Self Love, Self Care and Self Forgiveness.  Let me tell you, Self Forgiveness is hard, so much easier for me to forgive others.  For me Self Love and Self Care are deeply connected.  It is not as though I never not loved myself, but I was not taking care of myself. For the last 6 years I had basically neglected myself.  The hows and the whys are for another blog post.  It is 2021 and I haven’t totally checked off Self Love, Self Care and Self Forgiveness, but I am nearly there.  Consistent Self Care is my last real hurdle.

In 2020, I still wasn’t clear on the lesson that the Universe will tell me my word.  I chose Grace.  I didn’t have a complete understanding of the word, but I knew I wanted to embrace it and become it.  By the end of January the Universe spoke up and my word was Flow and soon that went into Surrender.  I needed to learn to go with the Flow and not “Make and Force things to happen” and then I needed to learn to Surrender to whatever is happening, and not control situations I really have no control over.  FLOW AND SURRENDER were amazing benefits in my life.  Had I ignored the words that were being shown to me via synchronicity, music, TV movies, TV commercials, people randomly saying them, magazine print and more.  Every single place I turned these words were there.  Towards the end of 2020 exercise, yoga and harmony were everywhere.  I did so well with Flow and Surrender, I guess I was given extra credit.  I feel I am living more in Harmony and am still working on Exercise and Yoga (mostly in my head, but I’m getting to it, it’s in with my Self Care hurdle).

I am a semi quick learner,  the Universe has spoken and my words are Faith and Power for 2021.  While I do not have a lack of Faith, I do get really stressed and hold that energy in my body.  This year more than the last few years I will need to really lean into Faith.  I will put all my worries and stress into Faith and leave my body stress free and surrender to however situations unfold, even if they seem not in my favor, I will understand that whatever is happening is for my highest good and something better is coming towards me. The Universe has prepared me for this year, and I am ready.

Power comes to me because, while I am the matriarch of the family and everyone comes to me for EVERYTHING.  I sometimes have a nervous energy when I am stressed (because EVERYTHING IS MY RESPONSIBILITY) and unknowingly I have given my POWER away in manipulative, narcissistic, gas lighting situations, when I am on the receiving end.  The nervous energy then turns into not being as independent and self reliant as I would like to be.  For me, the word POWER is very complex.  Yet,  I understand it and why it came to me. Did you know the word itself has 32 definitions!!! I have no lack of Self Empowerment nor do I have low self esteem.  I simply need to remain in my Power and know that I have the inner strength and confidence to stand in my power during all situations. For me, POWER is to help assist my nervous energy and some anxieties.  It’s an, I GOT THIS...period. 

I am forever in deep gratitude to the Universe for helping me on a deeper level that I would not have figured out for myself.  

Oh, by the way, in 2020 I was referred to as Graceful by three different people that did not know each other nor did they know that Grace was my attempted word for the year.  I was pretty much in tears each time and thanked them and the Universe for sending those three people as confirmation.

Side note, another word is already on the Horizon, Balance.  I need to Balance ME, my home, and my business.  Notice ME and my home are separate.  Part of Self Care for me was realizing I need to separate the house, the 3 kids and the animals from me as a responsibility, otherwise it’s all about them and NOT ME!  Maybe, just like Discipline, Self Mastery, Exercise, and Yoga; Balance JUST IS, I have the awareness, now I need to PRACTICE IT - DO IT!

IN REVIEW

Having a word or words in my case to focus on, has made a huge difference in my life.  I will always start the year with a new word, maybe still bring the previous word into my new year, if I felt I did not complete.  I will always be open to what new words are on the horizon too.  I too will celebrate myself when I come into awareness that I did complete a word and integrate it into mylife.  BE SURE YOU CELEBRATE YOU TOO!

YOUR ACTIVITY

should you choose to accept

Choose a Word.  What is your word for 2021 and will you choose it, or will you let the Universe reveal to you?  What other words have you used in previous years and how did it impact you?

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Luminous Light & Love,

Monique💖

Luminosity Living LLC